When it comes to babies, all we ever really talk about are the moms - and with good reason. But it doesn’t mean dads should be left out of the conversation. Millennial dads are even more and more active in raising their kids and do not want to be left out of the conversation. The baby industry has picked up on this and continue to offer a wide range of baby products and caregiving accessories that cater to both moms and dads. For example, Fawn Design offers a Diaper Bag for Men and Women so dads do not feel left out. These diaper bags come in a unisex design so both mom and dad feel comfortable carrying it and it also blends well with their outfits from casual to dressed up. So far dads that want to be more involved and maybe earn one of these Diaper Bag for Men and Women as a Christmas present or father’s day surprise, below are some tips to follow.
Don’t be a Bystander
Don’t assume about who does what and look at some duties as “mom duties”. Instead, share responsibilities, get involved in everything and share the workload with the mom. If you’re not sure of which duties you can handle, ask and talk about the best way to share the responsibilities with your partner. Get involved in everything, and share the load with your baby mama. Changing diapers, giving baths, getting them dressed, even feeding them. If the mom is still breastfeeding that's no excuse as you can feed them breast milk using a feeding bottle. It's also a great way to bond with the baby at an early stage so you don’t get left out.
The biggest mistake that dads make is not being there for their children as often as they can. As a dad, you should try to always set aside time each day and each week for your children. Don’t let anything violate this sacred time. And at those big moments in your child’s life — a soccer game, a music recital, a science fair — do your very best to be there. It means the world. It also shows your kids that they can come to you when they need anything like help or advice. They get used to your presence and start to trust you more and more.
Don’t Play Good Cop Bad Cop
Treat your kids' mom with respect at all times and stand with their decision at all times. Even if you disagree, discuss it in private and then provide a united front. It’s no good to have one parent say one thing, just to have the other contradict that parent. Instead, you and mom should be working together as a parenting team and should stand by each other’s decisions. That said, it’s important that you talk out these decisions beforehand, so that you don’t end up having to support a decision you strongly disagree with. Keep in mind that how you interact with your kids' mom is the first examples of human interactions your kids will witness and it will stick with them for the rest of their lives so always be a good example and provide a loving and health household atmosphere always.
Help With Late Night Feeding
Try to get up at night to help with feeding and changing the baby. This goes a long way to help moms. Even if they are staying at home moms, they need the rest because they are busy with the baby all day. Even if the mom is breastfeeding you can get up with her to keep her company and then you can help burp the baby.
You Can Do It
Do not doubt yourself or wonder if you have what it takes to be a good and great dad. It is a learning curve and even a steep learning curve but don’t let that discourage you and always remember that you can overcome any insecurities you have about being a dad. Don’t beat yourself up if you make mistakes (You are only human after all). Also, keep in mind that you can work hard and still be a present and great dad. Actually, after becoming a dad, your job is more important as you have a small human with expensive needs you have to take care of.
Though this sounds like a conundrum (gotta work harder now to provide for the kid and also gotta spend more time with the kid), there are some steps you can take toward making more time for your baby. Start by finding out your company's paid or unpaid parental leave policies. If your company offers paid leave for dads, you should take it. You don’t have to take the leave right after the baby is born but you can take one month after. You can also alternate with your wife and take a leave just as her maternity leave ends that way there's at least one parent at home for a long period of time. Take your vacation days to stay home with your kids or maybe work overtime and have half days on Fridays to even out your hours. Of course, some families don't have the luxury of leaving one parent at home. And while most workers at companies with at least 50 employees are entitled to 12 weeks of unpaid leave under the federal Family and Medical Leave Act, many can't afford the lost pay. One suggestion Ault offers: If your child's happiest, most active time is early in the morning when you're supposed to leave for work, find out if you can start coming in and leaving a little later or if you can switch your regular shift altogether.
In conclusion, make sure you enjoy the process and have a positive outlook even though you might feel overwhelmed with stress. Don’t panic if you start gaining weight, it’s called sympathy weight and you would most likely gain it but lose it after a while. Your wife will be dehydrated a lot so see yourself as a waiter and always bring her what she needs a